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Six Streams That Create Rivers of Conflict

A rushing river is fed by many smaller streams of various sizes. And, so it is with personal and church conflict. Rarely is there a singular event or issue that can be pointed to as the source of a conflict. In most church conflicts there are many contributing factors, some more impactful and challenging than others. The RIVERS acronym is a... Continue Reading

The P.A.U.S.E Approach to Cooperative Negotiation

Pastors have learned that where two or more are gathered, there will be conflict. This means if you avoid addressing conflict, you avoid a major responsibility of ministry. Ken Sande, in his classic book, The Peacemaker, recommends pastors consider an approach he calls cooperative negotiation when managing personal or corporate conflict. He notes that cooperative negotiation is highly recommended in... Continue Reading

How To Discover The Appropriate Conflict Management Style

As we noted in the post The Five Choices We Make In Conflict Resolution, conflict management is essential to effective ministry and being able to employ various conflict management styles improves the likelihood of a healthy outcome. We introduced the Thomas-Kilman Conflict Mode Instrument and its five modes of conflict management as an approach to consider. In his book, Discover... Continue Reading

Four Principles and Questions for Conflict Resolution Conversations

Ken Sande is an attorney and the president and founder of Peacemaker Ministries. He has helped hundreds of churches and ministers overcome disputes and resolve conflict by using biblical peacemaking principles and questions. Summarized in his classic book, The Peacemaker, Sande’s Four G’s provide a simple yet comprehensive approach to resolving any type of conflict.  The Peacemaker’s Four G’s For... Continue Reading

The Five Choices We Make in Conflict Resolution

Conflict abounds in the church. Because no two individuals have exactly the same expectations, needs, perspectives and desires, conflict is a natural part of our daily interactions. Research shows that most ministers spend several hours a week addressing some form of conflict. In the majority of cases, the outcomes are unsatisfactory and lead to personal fall-outs, pain, disharmony, and distractions... Continue Reading

12 Agenda Buckets for Church Staff Meetings

I have always found it helpful to think in terms of “buckets” to unlock and stimulate my thinking. Considering potential buckets before engaging in brainstorming also ensures that I am thinking comprehensively and big picture about a subject, opportunity, decision, challenge or agenda. Nowhere has “brain freeze” been more prevalent for me over the years than in developing an agenda... Continue Reading

When NOT to Attend a Meeting

A lot has been written about when not to schedule a meeting and what to include in an effective meeting, but little about how to discern if you should even attend a meeting in the first place . Usually there is a good reason you were invited, at least in the mind of those calling the meeting. But, especially with... Continue Reading

We Have To Stop Meetings Like This!

I’ve got to get our here, this meeting is a waste. I’ve got better things to do with my time! How often have you found yourself saying something similar? Bad meetings not only waste time but they drain our passion and enthusiasm for ministry. Even worse, ineffective meetings result in lack of action, poorly analyzed decisions and misuse of precious... Continue Reading