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Leadership Lessons From Putin: The Yes People Culture

Often our best leadership lessons come from bad leaders rather than good leaders. Such is the case with Russian President Vladimir Putin. Recent news reports have speculated that he has surrounded himself with yes men and thus is not receiving accurate information on the war in Ukraine, its impact on the Russian people, and the worldwide reaction. What are yes... Continue Reading

Do I Stay Or Do I Leave?

One of the most difficult questions that almost all church leaders face at one time or another is whether to stay in their current position or leave. Beyond fervent prayer and sensing a clear understanding of God’s will, we look for concrete signs to provide guidance. But what are those signs? They can differ for each person and each circumstance... Continue Reading

When You Are Undervalued

I recently read of an accomplished violinist who conducted his own informal social experiment. He began by playing for 45 minutes on the New York subway leaving his violin case open for donations. During that time four people stopped to listen and one clapped and he managed to raise 20 dollars. The following night the same violinist played to a... Continue Reading

How To Set Boundaries With Harmful People And Boundary Violators

It isn’t easy to set boundaries with people who you find toxic, unhealthy and personally harmful. It’s even more difficult to set boundaries for people who routinely plow through the boundaries you set. Yet these types of people are in the lives of every church leader and when you do set effective boundaries it can make a huge difference in... Continue Reading

Ten Tips For Setting Healthy Boundaries For Church Leaders

In our previous articles, Understanding Healthy Boundaries and Four Types of Personal Boundaries Every Church Leader Needs to Build, we talked about how strong personal boundaries are necessary to protect our time, energy, physical, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. As ministers we consistently put other people’s needs before our own. And in the process, we sacrifice our right to safety, respect... Continue Reading

Four Types Of Personal Boundaries Every Church Leader Needs To Build

In our last post, Understanding Healthy Boundaries, we looked at the definition, value and importance of personal boundaries. We noted that personal boundaries are limits that help us honor our values, priorities, and our truest and most authentic selves. Without strong boundaries you may be overly vulnerable to criticism or insults from others, you may struggle to manage your feelings... Continue Reading

Understanding Healthy Boundaries – What Are They Anyway?

  Boundaries are thought of in many different ways. A moat around a castle, an impermeable wall, an immovable fence, or limits we place on someone’s influence in our life are just a few. Boundaries are often thought of as mean, punitive, and controlling. But these ideas are rooted in a misunderstanding of exactly what healthy boundaries are and what... Continue Reading

Radical Soul Care For Church Leaders

In our last post, Now Is The Time For Radical Self-Care we introduced the concept of “radical self-care” for church leaders. A vitally important subset of radical self-care is “soul care,” especially for the church leader. What is soul care?  Soul care is the nurturing your inner spiritual life, your soul. Then what is “radical soul care?” Radical soul care... Continue Reading

Now Is The Time For Radical Self-Care

Hurt people, hurt people, and pastors and ministers are getting hurt in record numbers. Increasingly church leaders are confronted with unhealthy and even toxic people within their flock. Further, church leaders live with constant stress and are often running on empty. At times we need reminding that taking care of ourselves is not selfish, but prudent. Parker Palmer wisely observed,... Continue Reading

Could Code-switching Be Why People Aren’t Returning To Your Church?

In the 1950’s Einar Haugen coined the term “code-switching” to describe the practice of moving between multiple languages during interactions. The Harvard Business Review defined the term saying: “Broadly, code-switching involves adjusting one’s style of speech, appearance, behavior and expression in ways that will optimize the comfort of others in exchange for fair treatment, quality service and employment opportunities.” This is a... Continue Reading

There Are Only 3 Possibilities In Any Argument

Today’s church leaders are facing greater polarization and threats to church unity over an increasing number of arguable issues. In the midst of this discord, it is helpful to remember that there are really only three possibilities with any argument. This observation was made by John Stuart Mill and stated in 1859 in his treatise “On Liberty.” It was written... Continue Reading