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11 Ways To Move Groups Into Greater Trust

Too many teams, small groups, and staffs fail to meet each other’s needs or reach their peak effectiveness due to a lack of trust. In their book The Courage Way, Shelly Francis and the Center for Courage and Renewal share ideas about creating spaces of greater trust among people of different backgrounds, perspectives and/or beliefs. They have identified eleven “touchstones” or “ground rules” to help move groups into greater trust, belonging, and understanding:

  1. Give and Receive Welcome 
    Extend hospitality, and presume welcome, too. This includes welcome and support for diverse perspectives, opinions, and approaches.
  2. Be Present as Fully as Possible  
    Bring all of yourself—your doubts, fears, and failings as well as your convictions, joys, and successes, your listening as well as your speaking—to the work.
  3. Extend Invitation, Not Demand  
    Participation by listening with care is no less a contribution than participation by speaking with care.
  4. Speak Your Truth in Ways That Respect Other People’s Truth  
    When you’re getting to know people, it’s vital to share stories across lines of difference, not to debate who’s right or wrong, and not to cast blame or shame.
  5. No Fixing, Saving, Advising, or Correcting Each Other 
    Good leaders point their team in a direction where they can find answers, and also instill the belief that team members have the gifts and capacity to make good decisions the leaders will support.
  6. When the Going Gets Rough, Turn to Wonder  
    If you feel judgmental, or defensive ask yourself, “I wonder what brought her to this belief?” “I wonder what he’s feeling right now?” “I wonder what my reaction teaches me about myself?”
  7. Practice Asking Open, Honest Questions  
    Open, honest questions are the ones you cannot possibly know the answer to in advance; they are meant to elicit insights, to help people access their own resourcefulness.
  8. Attend to Your Own Inner Teacher 
    As you listen to and interact with others, pay close attention to your own reactions and responses.
  9. Trust and Learn from the Silence 
    Silence, or stillness, is a gift in our noisy world, and a way of knowing in itself.
  10. Commit to and Maintain Confidentiality  
    People are more likely to trust each other when they know that their words and stories will remain with those with whom they choose to share them and will never be passed on to others without permission.
  11. Know That It’s Possible for the Seeds Planted Here to Keep Growing 
    We stand in many tragic gaps in life and recognize that our vocation lies somewhere between what is real and what can be.

Center for Courage & Renewal and Shelly L. Francis, The Courage Way: Leading and Living with Integrity (Oakland, CA: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 2018), 27–35.


Posted on August 30, 2022

Jim Baker

Jim is a Church Organizational Leadership and Management Coach, Consultant and Trainer. Throughout his career Jim has demonstrated a passion for showing Pastors and Ministers how to use organizational tools for church and personal growth and health.

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