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Do You Have Someone Who Protects You From Your Worst Impulses?

Under the right circumstances, all leaders are susceptible to voicing or acting on their worst impulses. We each have a deeply seated dark side characterized by impure motives, emotional outbursts, and ungodly behavior that surface as impulsive words and deeds in the face of leadership responsibilities and pressures. It is in times such as these that we need someone who will boldly speak unvarnished truth to us, someone who will protect us from the worst version of ourselves. Having someone like this not only protects us, but maybe more importantly, they help protect the people and the organizations we serve.

But, what if you are the one who is called on to protect the leader you serve or the person you love? What are your options for speaking truth into their lives at critical times? Let’s explore some ways this can be approached.

Ways To Protect People From Their Worst Impulses

In his book, “The Gatekeepers”, Chris Whipple shares fascinating examples from the seventeen living White House Chiefs of Staff of how they all at times had to protect their President from acting on their worst impulses. Some of their tactics in response to ill-advised requests or commands included:

  1. Ignoring – simply acting like it didn’t happen, hoping the President would forget
  2. Modifying – reinterpreting the Presidents words or actions so they would be more palatable
  3. Delaying – slowing implementation of the request to allow the President time to change his mind
  4. Confronting – stating boldly their opposition while offering sound reasoning why
  5. Contradiction – taking the opposite side to illustrate a healthier response
  6. Options – providing multiple options to the approach the President was considering
  7. Questions – asking thought provoking questions to lead the President to reflect further
  8. Consequences – stating the potential consequences of the President’s words or actions
  9. Policies – sharing how the President’s position goes against specific policy or law
  10. Precedent – showing examples of how the President’s position goes against precedent

Each of the White House Chiefs of Staff had varying success with these tactics. Choosing the right approach at the right time appeared to be the key.

How Did Jesus Do It?

Ultimately, we all need someone who protects us from our worst impulses. And, at one time or another we will all be called on to protect those we serve or love from their worst selves. On such occasions I find it helpful to be mindful of the ways Jesus approached it with his disciples.

A close reading of the Gospels uncovers multiple examples of Jesus protecting his disciples from their worst impulses. Notable examples include when the disciples were keeping children away from Jesus, attacking Roman captors, arguing about who would be the greatest, and wrongfully stopping the man casting out demons. And, Jesus can be our greatest source of protection as well as an example of how to be a protector of others. Several of Jesus’ approaches are worthy of our own consideration:

  • The Use of Parable and Metaphor – Jesus effectively used parables and metaphors as a means of enlightening His disciples and correcting their misperceptions without demeaning them. Using stories and metaphors can be effective ways to indirectly provide insight into the wrong or right path.
  • Quoting Scripture – Jesus referenced passages of Holy Scripture well known to His disciples to contrast their words and actions to that of Scripture. Referring to applicable passages of Scripture we can remind ourselves or someone we serve when words and actions don’t align with God’s Word. This can prompt reflection that reveals ungodly motives and curbs worst impulses.
  • Modeling – At times Jesus chose not to confront but to simply model the appropriate response or action. Often the best way to confront a bad behavior is to simply model a better behavior.

Do you have someone(s) who will speak truth into your life when you are most susceptible to acting on your own worst impulses? If not, you might consider asking your spouse, a parent, sibling, peer, associate, mentor, supervisor, or spiritual director to serve in that capacity. Are you in a position to speak truth to someone and thereby protect them from their worst selves? If so, recognize it as a God orchestrated responsibility and approach it by prayerfully asking for the Spirit of Understanding, Wisdom, Counsel, and Strength (Isaiah 11:2-3).

 

 


Posted on March 17, 2020
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Jim Baker

Jim is a Church Organizational Leadership and Management Coach, Consultant and Trainer. Throughout his career Jim has demonstrated a passion for showing Pastors and Ministers how to use organizational tools for church and personal growth and health.

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